I spend far too much time dwelling. I focus on bad things that have happened or stupid things that I've done or reliving painful times really to an absurd extent. And what does it get me? Misery. I get sad, withdrawn, lethargic. And ever though I know this, I don't stop myself. Why is that? Sometimes I wonder if I'm masochistic.
There is a lot to be said for the value of the past in learning, but the pastis only valuable in the sense to a very limited point. After that, it stunts. I'm not making myself any wiser by behaving in this manner. It's not altering my choices. Rather, it's dragging me down, making me doubt myself even more that I do naturally. By living in the past, I could very well be impeding my future. Not any more.
I love laughing, I love having fun, I love making people smile. Why should I live the way I do? No more. From now on, I am catching myself when I get into this mindset and I'm forcing myself to get out of it. Whatever it takes - exercise, going out, et cetera. It's not worth my happiness and potential.
Any suggestions for good ways to switch gears when I find myself dwelling?
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The thing that I've realized lately is that when something happens, you have to give yourself time to feel sad, or mad or whatever, until you're just done feeling that way. Then you can slowly start to look back and not just see the bad things, but the good things and the happy things and really see what you can learn from whatever the experience it was. You can ALWAYS learn something.
ReplyDeleteThis is very true. I supposed sometimes I'm a bit impatient as far as waiting until I'm through those initial emotions goes.
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